June 5, 2025

Cool Wedding Trends and Unique Wedding Traditions and Customs: An Insider's Guide

Cool Wedding Trends and Unique Wedding Traditions and Customs: An Insider's Guide

Planning a wedding doesn’t have to feel like you’re scaling Mount Pinterest?

At its heart, weddings are really all about celebrating a love story—yours, or another person you care about. In this F amily Tree, Food & Stories episode, Nancy May and Sylvia

Lovely pop the champagne and dive into the wild world of weddings with the ever-wise Sara Barton— AKA their Wedding Whisperer and planning guru.

Here you’ll go beyond the bouquet toss and dive into the quirky, forgotten, and freshly minted traditions shaping weddings today. Ever heard of a recipe card shower? Or the Victorian-era cake pull where bridesmaids yank ribbons from inside the cake to reveal their romantic fate? You’ll learn about those —and more.

From pet-inspired cocktails to post-pandemic etiquette, weddings are evolving fast. But why do some old customs (like tucking cake under your pillow to dream of your future spouse) vanish, while others make a grand return?

If you—or someone in your circle of family and friends—is planning a wedding (or just loves a good wedding story), this episode is for you. Pull up a chair, pour some bubbly, and let’s grab a piece of cake and dig in.

P.S. Got a wedding “oops” moment or family tradition worth sharing? Drop us a message. We live for those juicy stories.

📣Key Takeaways:

  • What are couples ditching to create more personal wedding experiences?
  • New wedding cake trends that are still pricy.
  • What's old that's new again with wedding traditions?
  • Ways to make that special day even more personal.

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About Your Award-Winning Hosts: Nancy May and Sylvia Lovely are the powerhouse team behind Family Tree, Food & Stories , a member of The Food Stories Media Network , which celebrates the rich traditions and connections everyone has around food, friends, and family meals. Nancy, an award-winning business leader, author, and podcaster, and Sylvia, a visionary author, lawyer, and former CEO, combine their expertise to bring captivating stories rooted in history, heritage, and food. Together, they weave stories that blend history, tradition, and the love of food, where generations connect and share intriguing mealtime stories and kitchen foibles.

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Hey Sylvia.

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It's great to be here in June talking about weddings.

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I can't wait.

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And we have a delightful guest who I know locally, in my podcaster group.

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She's the owner of Simply Love Studios and the host of the Wedding Whisperer podcast.

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she's a resource center.

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She's like a connector.

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just such a wonderful role in a world of bewildering choices, right?

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She hooks the customer's up with the right vendors because

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it's a bewildering universe.

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And I might say, in addition to having been the host of Wedding

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Whispers since 2022, she also just appeared on the Drew Barrymore show.

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Ooh.

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And.

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As you know, we marry up tradition with food and some of the moments in

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our lives, like your baking disasters.

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We relate to that.

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Yeah.

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So welcome aboard.

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Thank you.

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Well, I'm gonna say wedding whispers.

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I think in some cases it might be wedding screamers.

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Yeah.

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What happens next?

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Oh, I, I've got wedding stories, but I'll let you guys go first because.

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I'll just interject towards the end on some of my disasters.

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I am always here for the wedding stories.

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Yes.

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So Sarah, I'm so excited about having you here and you know, and you've

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reviewed our book, Family Tree Food and Stories and our podcast, so you

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get a flavor, hopefully of what we are all about, which is marrying that.

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Whole idea of tradition and food and stories and just exactly what

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you did on the Drew Barrymore Show, some of the most hilarious things.

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And goodness knows, I've got all kinds of disasters, in the world.

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And, what we wanna talk about though is weddings, because we think we have

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something that brides would really love.

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In fact, we recently had a guest that talked about getting, it is probably a

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typical story of today she got married.

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10 years ago, and she had her mother write down all her recipes and give

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them to her in a booklet, which she did.

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And as she put it, the booklet lasted, but the marriage didn't.

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I think that's the funniest part.

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I mean, sorry that the wedding didn't, the marriage didn't last, but hey,

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it's nice to have those memories in a different way that are positive, right.

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Especially now that we have a book where you can actually, the bride can actually

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buy the, book and fill in the recipe on one side and the story on the other.

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Or mom can buy the book.

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Yeah.

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Somebody can do that.

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And when we initially started talking about this and you, you were mentioning

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the book, I had not seen it yet, and so whenever I got the copy of it.

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I was expecting like, I guess an actual book, like a

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traditional book that we think of.

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and so I'm not a big reader.

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I'll listen to books a lot and I'll listen to podcasts and stuff.

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but I was very surprised when I opened it that it was more, I.

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A culinary journal.

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Mm-hmm.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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And it was not reading.

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and I think that might be something we wanna talk about.

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You know, just for bride said it, this is not one more thing that you have to do.

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This is, it's different, it's interactive.

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You're not the one doing all of the work on this.

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and you don't have to read 170 pages to complete the assignment type thing.

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The shoe fits, and the book is easy to do.

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And you know what?

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It's experiential.

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Just like, just like a wedding.

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And hopefully it's a positive experience at a wedding, but

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we know the book will be.

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What we wanna do though is explore a little bit about weddings.

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cause we're into tradition.

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We've got a number of them we can talk about.

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But what are you seeing in the trends in weddings?

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I saw when I looked through some of your information, your, your episodes, uh.

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Barbecue, food truck, weddings, all that kind of stuff.

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Is that changed?

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tell us about trending.

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What's, what's happening in the wedding world?

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Um, as far as trends, I would say one that we're seeing a lot right now.

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Um, of course in the past few years, our only options have

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been a buffet or a plated dinner.

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We're definitely seeing a lot of stations now where there are different

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tables set up throughout the room where one might have like many sliders and

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fries and one might have a mashed.

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Um, one might have some type of barbecue on it, one might be a mac and cheese bar.

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just something interactive.

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So your guests will typically go to one or two stations, sit down, eat that, and

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then get up and go to another station.

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And that way, your guests can chat while they're in line and

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it's a little bit more casual.

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And then we are also seeing, uh, family style dinners, where everything is

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served in big bowls, on the table.

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That started a lot during the pandemic.

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when we didn't want people up mingling.

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We wanted them all sitting within their immediate families.

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And so that has definitely continued.

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and I really like that.

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one of my favorite restaurants I went to in, Savannah.

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Was family style.

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And that was really the first time I had ever experienced something like that.

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which one was it?

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Which

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I think it's a lot of fun.

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I think it was Mrs. Wilks

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Oh yes, I have the cookbook.

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and that was a blast and it's just a lot of fun and you, again, get

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to know the people, especially if you don't know them already.

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so we're definitely seeing that.

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And then the food trucks, I would say that's probably the

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last six or seven years as well.

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With the food trucks, there are definitely a lot more logistics that

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go into having a food truck for your wedding than most couples realize.

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In the beginning.

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We definitely recommend having two food trucks, regardless of your

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guest count size, because they are producing a lot of food and a.

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Small environment very quickly and we don't want your guests standing

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in line and we wanna different,

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and times couples will, might think it's more affordable to.

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So it's a lot more casual.

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versus the day and age.

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When I got married, everybody talked about they're doing the beef Wellington and

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they're doing the lobster, and they're.

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Doing something else.

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We didn't do that.

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Ours was just a, quick, well, I wouldn't say, you know, quick.

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Thank you ma'am.

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Goodbye.

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But that sounds kind of rude, but

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mine was, a church wedding and a church reception, so it was kinda,

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mm. Anyway, nothing exotic or

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pass the wafer and a glass of wine and you're done.

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that's right.

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The mints, you know.

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what's the weirdest thing that you've ever dealt with in a wedding request?

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like as far as food

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just anything?

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Just what's, what's something that's strange?

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Kind of offbeat

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A lot of times I will ask people those questions, like if they're

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in healthcare or something, because those worlds fascinate me and they're

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like, it's just everyday work for me.

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And for me it's kinda like that too.

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Like I try to keep my facial expressions the same.

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Uh, when somebody asks me something that is weird or different or I

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wasn't expecting that because I try not to have a reaction to people,

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because what is important to them, is not necessarily important to me

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So don't cross your eyes and vomit on the side,

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Yeah.

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gosh.

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I would say something weird would probably be like even in, we'll say

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like 2005, 2006, when people started having barn weddings in Kentucky.

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everyone thought that was weird.

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it was literally the straight tobacco barn on someone's farm

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with gravel and dirt as the floor.

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True.

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Mm-hmm.

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you didn't have running water out there, and everyone thought that was weird.

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And now we have everyone building brand new barns with air and heat and everything

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in them now for, for wedding days.

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So it's kind of the things that maybe were weird at one point are

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normal and wanted at this point.

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And you don't have to worry about getting into the porta-potty in

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your white wedding dress, right?

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It's a little fancier than that.

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Oh gosh.

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how about traditions?

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what do you see being incorporated into weddings now as far as traditions,

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like for instance, noodles, in Asia or for longevity and luck.

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Rice throwing wing of rice is, ancient times and is

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Butterflies.

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People would send up butterflies and bubbles and things like that,

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I would say we don't see as many traditions as we used to.

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I think any traditions or etiquette that we had left, the pandemic,

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kind of wiped that out because we had to shift so much at that point.

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I would say the most of what we see is when someone takes, the dress

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from their mother and incorporates that somehow, repurposes that,

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we do see some rice occasionally.

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and then the Jordan almonds, we do see those occasionally as favors.

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I think those may mean some good luck type things.

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but really traditions, unless it might be like a family tradition, we

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really don't see that many anymore.

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that's kind of

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Unfortunately.

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right?

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It is.

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Maybe we can revive it.

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What do you think, Nancy?

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some of the traditional, this sounds kind of redundant, more stayed traditions

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in general in the wedding world from years back that people would do beyond

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throwing rice and, flower petals, which was all for fertility originally, but

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it's kind of a different world today.

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Mm-hmm.

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I would say one of the original traditions is when, the bride did not see the

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groom until she walked down the aisle.

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whereas we do first looks now so that they have more time where they get to

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see each other before the ceremony set that we have more time for pictures.

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and we get a lot of the pictures done beforehand.

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and that really helps your timeline.

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They really get better pictures that way and

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So it's good luck instead of bad luck to actually see your

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groom and your bride before.

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Or hand.

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Then if you want

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I know.

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It really was.

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Yeah, it really was.

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Well, I don't think you probably see too much turmeric paste.

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Slathered onto the bride and groom.

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I've never seen that one.

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There goes that white dress.

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Hindu ceremony.

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and so anyway, again, purity, fertility, prosperity.

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I think one of the modern ones that I love is putting a favorite recipe.

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Onto a cutting board or something like that.

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I mean that's more in the gift lineup, but I think about that

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and how that saves that recipe.

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It's better than waiting till the end and having it on your gravestone.

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Right.

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That's also

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Oh yeah, absolutely.

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I might as well use it.

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Right.

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Don't give it to me after the fact.

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I can't eat that stuff.

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I'm gone.

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And a lot of brides, like in their, wedding showers, usually if they're

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younger and they have registered for a lot of cookware and bakeware and

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houseware stuff, and they're doing that type of a wedding shower, whoever is

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hosting it, we'll send out some type of recipe card or postcard for people

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to write their favorite recipe on.

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Um, and then they bring that to the wedding day and kind of

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make something, for the couple..

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Are you finding that in showers that brides are looking for those

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cooking, those fancy cooking tools and appliances today?

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Or are they more like, give me the vacuum cleaner, kind of thing.

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It really depends on their age.

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if they were right out of college, up until probably the 26, 27 range,

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they don't have that stuff yet.

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They want the KitchenAid mixer, they want the staples in their

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kitchen, but whereas if they're, you know, in their thirties and

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Which is more and more,

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they've already bought that stuff for themselves.

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and so they don't necessarily need it at that point.

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Are they looking for high-end kitchen appliances or gadgets

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when they're looking for that?

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Or is it just traditional kind of things

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I would say it's more traditional and it may be 50 50.

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As far as the high end, I would say the KitchenAid mixer and the

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Dyson vacuum, are gonna be your two biggest things that are on there.

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and then I would say everything else is, a pretty normal range, like from

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Macy's or Targets, um, or Kohl's.

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You know, I think of the cast iron skillets.

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What a great gift that is.

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I don't know how often brides ask for that, but we've talked

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Nancy about cast iron skillets are kept in families for generations

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I was just talking to a friend who has her great-grandmother's cast iron Skillet.

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we're trying to figure out the date on it.

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It, it's dating back to the early 18 hundreds.

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Like, oh my God.

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You know?

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Really fascinating to see that.

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And to keep it fresh all those years.

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'cause there's all the controversy about how do you clean them and

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Oh, well that's easy.

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they can get rusty.

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I know how to fix them.

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If You need help with Sylvia, I do know, just let me know.

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I'll help you.

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Oh, I've discovered among your other many treasures, your ability to do

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Cleaning the rust off of cast iron skillets.

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is there anything you can't do?

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I mean, that's amazing.

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Oh yeah.

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What about food?

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What are you seeing?

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What are trends in food, I listened to your show where you had the

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various wedding people at the venues tell how they handled tastings.

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But before we go there, I'm gonna take a quick break because

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there's nothing like a good.

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Cliffhanger on ingredients, right,

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That's right.

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so we'll be right back.

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Hang tight.

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listen up because we're just about to talk about the ingredients.

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On what's going in, what are the special requests that people

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have for their wedding food?

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Is it Campbell's cream of mushroom soup, or is it something

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a little fancier than that?

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I'm suspecting it's the latter,

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Yeah.

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What's up with food?

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I.

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I would say our big trend right now is desserts.

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we are seeing couples kind of shy away from the traditional tiered

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wedding cake, and they want desserts.

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they want, like little mini like cheesecake shooters.

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They want brownies, they want cookies.

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they want chess bars, they want cupcakes.

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or it may be something where they have a family recipe and they will ask, their

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catering to make a certain kind of pie.

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it may be, grandma's pumpkin pie recipe or apple pies.

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cheesecakes are really popular now for desserts.

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so we've definitely changed when it comes to desserts.

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I would say that's probably where.

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Couples have the most request, for certain items for the wedding day.

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Do you know where the tiered wedding cake came from or where

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that tradition, how that started?

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Because I don't.

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don't.

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Well, I know, that in medieval times they would stack them very, very high

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to the point where the bride and groom had to look over them, in order to

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kiss over them as a symbolic thing.

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So that may be where it came from.

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Kissing over the mountain of the cake,

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Yeah.

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then, of course, you have to have the top right because you gotta

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do something with the top layer.

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Well, yeah.

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And when you've got all these little mini cupcakes and desserts that are

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smaller desserts, the tradition was to take that top layer of the

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cake and freeze it for the first year of your wedding anniversary.

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Bob and I did that.

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We saved it and it was pretty good.

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but we had a really good cake to begin with, so

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So we don't do that anymore.

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I would say 90% of the bakers don't do that anymore.

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They will offer the couples as part of their package, they will offer the

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couples, a essentially their top tier cake, for their one year anniversary.

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So they could come back a year later and

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Yep.

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And they'll get a

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fresh one at that point.

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Oh,

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oh.

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Well that's kind of

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so that means that the year that just passed wasn't just a leftover,

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Yeah.

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that way they can serve all of it at the wedding, and they don't have

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to worry about wrapping it up and packaging it and getting it home

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from the wedding and getting it in.

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Getting it in someone's freezer, and that way it's all

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And doesn't get squished by something, you know, that big

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Providing the baker's still in business, which you hope so

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Uh, you know, I was reading, and I've read before that giving a dinner party in

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today's day and age is very challenging because you'll have dietary restrictions.

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You've got somebody on the paleo diet, someone on the dash diet,

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someone on the Mediterranean diet, someone on something or another.

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Are you seeing more of the dietary kind of restrictions come into play in wedding?

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Food

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Absolutely, and caterers here have always been so great about when

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it comes to accommodating that.

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And typically whenever couples will send out, their invitations, there

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will be an RSCP card in there, and at that point they can notate,

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any type of dietary restriction.

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Yep.

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and typically I would say you have your gluten-free, Your dairy

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free, are probably gonna be in your vegan and vegetarian are gonna

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be the ones that are accommodated the most and requested the most.

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and if it is someone that has like a very serious type allergy,

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they will note that on there.

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And a lot of times the bride groom will know that and be able to

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tell the caterer ahead of time.

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And sometimes that guest just won't eat and take, won't take

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the chance at the wedding.

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and also we've had wedding guests too.

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A lot of times, the food will be labeled, on what it is.

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And I was actually, when I still did planning, one of the bridesmaids just got

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her chicken and mushrooms and all the.

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And ate it.

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And then her lips were swelling and we're like, okay, you know,

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are you allergic to anything?

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She's like, yeah, I'm allergic to mushrooms.

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And we're like, you just ate mushrooms with the chicken, like

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it says mushrooms on the tag.

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and so like as vendors indicators, you can only do so much.

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and so at that point we were looking for Benadryl and things, but if caterers know

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ahead of time, they will 100% accommodate

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Yeah.

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It's gotten complicated,

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Well, big lips are in now, so maybe that works

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true.

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we've come a long way since white cakes were the norm in the Victorian era.

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Right.

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And what we see as complicated, like I could, I wouldn't even have

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any idea how to make something gluten-free or egg-free or anything.

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But the caterers, they do this every day.

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and they have their certain specialty dishes and stuff that

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they can absolutely do that.

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and typically it's gonna be the same price as the regular

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What about drinks?

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What about drinks Because you always think about champagne and

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toast and those kinds of things and the biggest fear, I think.

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That, most grooms, well, it's not the groomsmen, but the best man

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and the Made of honor or matron of honor have is, what do you say?

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But there's a whole trend towards non-alcoholic

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beverages these days, which is.

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That would never work at our wedding.

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So

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Yeah,

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that was a different day and

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age.

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me.

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And we were from Connecticut, darling.

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So they all drank.

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Excuse us for those who are from Connecticut and don't, but, I

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don't believe that you don't.

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So, but that's for another story.

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What's going on, on that front that you're seeing?

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I would say that, every wedding, pretty much here in Kentucky

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will always have like sweet tea, unsweet tea, lemonade and water.

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and then at the bar you will have your basic, usually a couple of beers.

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You'll have usually a local beer, and then a red wine and a white wine.

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And

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probably

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It is Kentucky.

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You go bourbon,

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right?

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Yep.

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Yep.

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Usually a couple kinds of bourbon, some seltzers, that's become really popular.

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and then usually, they want something local as well.

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And then really there's always signature drinks.

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There's usually a, his and her signature drinks.

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sometimes those are alcoholics, sometimes those are not, and sometimes

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one of those may be and one may not.

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usually there's gonna be a sign at the bar telling you if those are.

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Signature drinks.

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I've never heard of that before.

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So this is something that the bride and the groom have concocted

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or they like themselves that are specialties in their own experiences

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Yep.

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and they'll name them after their cats or their dogs or

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I love that!

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fun.

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Yeah,

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Well, as we get older and get married older, a lot of

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people have dog and cat babies.

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You know,

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Oh, that's right.

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Or the dog and the cat come, or the ring bearers.

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Right?

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Well, probably more the dog than the cat because the cat's gonna not

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be that interested to begin with.

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Here's a tradition.

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I don't think I like this one, where a bride sleeps with a piece

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of the cake under her pillow.

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Does that just sound icky?

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I heard of that one.

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Yep.

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That's she dreams.

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She's supposed to dream of her future husband.

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That's the

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Well, I think maybe that's not the bride.

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Maybe that's the one who catches the bouquet or something that sleeps

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with the, because if she's supposed to dream of her future husband

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to

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be, I don't, I don't know.

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I don't know.

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You know, it is kind of, kind of weird.

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I think it's kind of weird and maybe it has been laid to rest.

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well, he better have good cleaning skills in that case if he's gonna

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clean up after MyPillow, so.

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But, here's another one though.

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Cake pulling.

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Have you heard of that?

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where you have charms embedded in the cake and the bridesmaids, or,

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you know, like you throw the bouquet.

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But this is more of a food oriented one, where they pull the charms out the

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cake.

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It's

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on a ribbon, that would be a really great tradition to start again.

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Right.

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Yeah, I like that.

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That's kind of cute.

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Did you know all of these, or did you research some of these?

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Oh, I, I dug holes in the research.

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I was like, I've never seen or heard of any of

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these.

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I,

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I've heard of, the, prizes, on ribbons that are baked in and then you pull the

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ribbon out and you get this price, better.

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Have a pretty big rock at the end of that prize for me.

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I've already got one ring.

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I'll take another one, darling.

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okay.

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Sarah, what we do know is that you will never be invited

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to bake a cake at a wedding.

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Tell us about this Drew Mary Moore thing.

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So I went to New York this past December and it was the first week in December.

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And you always hear that, the first week in December is the best time

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to go to any of these type of shows because they're always doing like

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Christmas giveaways and stuff.

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So, that one was the one that fit in our schedule the best and.

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we'd gotten tickets for it and I was sitting in the airport, about a month

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before that and just got an email, said, Hey, if you're gonna be in the

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show this day, and you're known as the bad baker in your family, we would love

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to have you be a guest on the show.

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I love that.

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a video.

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And I was.

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That was me.

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I am usually allowed to bring ice and, the drinks.

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I get specific instructions on the ice because I can mess that up as well.

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Everybody in my family, they're incredible cooks and bakers, but I'm not, and so

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I submitted a video and we chatted a little bit and I was a guest on the show.

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with a lady named Amira who owns Flower Shop, in California.

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It's kind of the cakes and the cupcakes that have sprinkles in the

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middle of it whenever you open them.

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And, she taught us how to make cake balls.

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It was a very messy experience on tv.

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I don't know the difference in how much they showed.

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Like live versus what they actually showed because you're so focused

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on what you're doing at that point.

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but it was very messy when we were doing it.

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And then when we're done, I literally had icing all over my hands and,

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um, I was like, yeah, I'm gonna keep buy, yeah.

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I'm gonna keep buying the, buying these things instead of making

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I would be licking those fingers, 'cause I love icing.

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Have you ever had lunch or dessert with a diabetic?

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They have to watch what they eat, right?

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So here's a new ply.

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my boss at one time was a diabetic, so he would eat the cake

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part and I would eat the icing.

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It was a perfect partnership.

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Oh, just spoon the icing in.

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Put it in a bucket and I'll eat

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I know.

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I'll wrap it up.

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It's gotta be

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buttercream.

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Oh.

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Oh

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yeah, otherwise, not a, not on my spoon.

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Thank you very much.

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But,

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so weddings and traditions, there's so much out there that we could cover.

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And there's some really interesting ones that we, we didn't cover,

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but there are a few, let me see.

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There are a few other little excellent ones.

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So we had the layers, layers of one at a time signify the certain

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ecosystem or e socioeconomic system of.

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Or status, I guess, of the bride.

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Like it depends upon how many tears you had and I remember seeing a photo

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or there was like a, a little video I was watching at some point about Kate.

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Will, you know, William and William and Kate, who doesn't

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know who William and Kate is.

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Right.

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You know, the British.

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Right.

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Anyway, and so Kate is showing the Queen A, it's like a demo model of her, her

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original wedding cake, and the amount of tears that were there is just amazing.

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So I guess based on their social status, it probably hit

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the size of Mount Everest, but

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The Empire

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big.

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or

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something.

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And wedding toppers.

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Wedding cake toppers.

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So those are pretty symbolic of what the futures would be necessarily of the, of

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the bride and groom, although it didn't necessarily show the futures did it.

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I mean, you still show two people kissing.

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Yeah, and that's the most common.

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But I bet in today's world there's all kinds of toppers.

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if you want a topper of a Corvette and you're from Bowling Green, Kentucky, where

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they make them, you probably have that out

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there, right?

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Hmm.

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I didn't realize that they made bets at Boinging and Kentucky.

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That's kind of interesting.

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or Cro.

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Cro Gabo.

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Right.

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Either the French did that.

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That was the French with the

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Croush.

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Try to say that three times fast and, might got me not married.

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tongue

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Say it, Nancy, you said it.

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You said it very well.

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I can't pronounce it.

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Coush.

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Coush.

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Coush.

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A towering French dessert made of cream filled.

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C-H-O-U-X.

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How would you do that in French?

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Show?

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Show pastry balls

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bound

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cro, CROs, I would say, you know, basically they're basically

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teeny little round cream puffs

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and then you put

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the, put the sponge sugar on it.

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And I don't know if you ever saw it, but there was one famous.

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Show between Julia Chiles and of course Martha Stewart.

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it's around the holidays time, which is typically for a Croush.

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And Martha's of course, is absolutely perfect.

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Julius is kind of like, well, like Miss Piggy might make one, right?

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I

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And it's a little creative and all over the place that has

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personality and Julia's done.

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She goes, well, what do you think Martha and Martha sort of

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sneers and looks mine is better.

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no, I just, from your description, I like Julia's better.

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I like Julia's better too.

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Gimme a little missing.

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It's all going to the same place anyway.

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Right?

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As, as you said, Sarah, like ultimately it all comes out.

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Or

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Hey.

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in in another episode?

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It all comes out

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Okay, Nancy, I've got one for you.

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Here's a ceremony that you would've loved.

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I don't know why I'm picking on Nancy, 'cause I would've loved it too.

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Libation ceremony,

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and it's done a lot in the African American wedding community, and it's

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like just wine or something, but it's a ceremony that symbolizes bringing those

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who have passed on back into your life.

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And it

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could be done with wine with, Yeah.

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Yeah.

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It's called a libation ceremony.

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I'll tip my

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in.

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I'm in.

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for sure.

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Yeah.

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But I like to pick on Nancy too.

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it's okay.

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I'm used to it.

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I'm, I'm a good egg on that one.

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So, but there's so many more traditions that we can cover, and

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I think the, the ultimate story here is that there are no traditions.

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We can make it up as we go along and be as creative and crazy as we want.

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I've seen donkeys go down the aisle and horses go down the aisle

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and the dag dogs go down the aisle and the kids, and,

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olds that can't stay in a straight

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you know,

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the cute little kids with the curly hair doesn't, Yeah.

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doesn't work as much, God forbid they're all cuter than the bride and the groom.

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We're really not in for a good show, but it all works out in the end, and

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hopefully they all live happily ever

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Yeah.

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I have one last question.

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I'm just curious, what now is the busiest time for your

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type of business for weddings?

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I always heard June?

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or I heard Christmas.

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June?

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this is one of those things, it may be different by state, and by region.

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But in Kentucky, October, is going to be the most popular by far because it's.

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So pretty outside with the leaves changing.

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going into the first weekend in November is usually beautiful.

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I would say September is after that, and then June, probably gonna busiest.

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Okay.

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Not in april.

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It's cold here

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So April actually is fairly popular because we do have keeland happening

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and if someone went to school at UK and they wanna bring in all of

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their, friends and family from out of town, they wanna take them to Keeland

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and want them to experience that.

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so April is definitely popular as

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well.

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And that's, and that's a race track for the, those of our, and it's

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an old world looking Beautiful.

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beautiful.

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and get on with the wedding.

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up, up.

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yeah.

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Well, my husband, Bob wanted to do a June wedding.

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I don't think he, I think he did a September wedding

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of his first time around.

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And I keep telling him that the second bride is the trophy wife,

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so I don't let him forget that.

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One.

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that.

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whether where we were

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in that line, but,

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um, I didn't know

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where were you?

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I'm still the

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Where

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Yeah.

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you are?

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A trophy.

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Where?

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Where?

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was that wedding?

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Where

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Well, we didn't have it in June.

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We couldn't get a June date and we ended up in, the end of February and

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it was, in Norwalk, Connecticut, that was a tiny little inn in Silver mine.

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It was actually silver mine in Norwalk and it was the Silver Mine

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Inn, and it was one of the oldest inns in the state of Connecticut.

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And so it was just like 25, 30 of us.

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Family, close friends,

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and a little bit

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Mm-hmm.

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snow and the babbling broke behind us

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the heavy hor d'oeuvres and a few

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Libations?

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right?

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Libations?

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had, libations and one of my, uh, soon to be at the time, more than former

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or at the time, sister-in-laws said, what's the matter with these people?

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Don't they eat?

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It's just hor d'oeuvres and drink.

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It's like, well, I told you.

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She says, she said there was too much white bread there for her.

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So.

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Oh

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gosh.

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But on that note, white cakes, a little white bread, a little white wine, a

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toast of champagne and a happily ever after is what we look for in a wedding.

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And thank you, Sarah, so much for being here as our guest, the Wedding Whisperer.

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If you don't know who she is, we will put a link to her in Int intro,

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well her details in the show notes.

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She has a show as well.

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And, we're thrilled to have

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you, here as our guest.

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Sarah,

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thank you so much.

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you, Sarah.

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And like Sylvia and I always tell you, it's every meal has a

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story and every story is a feast.

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And certainly every wedding feast is more than a feast and

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has lots of stories to tell.

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We'll see you soon and we'll hear you soon.

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